Have you ever stood in a crowded room and felt like you were totally alone? Or worse yet, you stood out like a preacher at a porn convention? Of course you have! If you haven’t you should just quit reading now.
I don’t fit in anywhere. At least that’s what I thought for the longest time. Everywhere I went I was that girl. The lone female in a group of men at a bike night or run. The one who needed toilet paper or a freaking leaf for Chrissakes’ at the bathroom stops.
One of maybe 3 girls in town who didn’t ride pillion, I would scour social media for girls just like me. I had questions and I wanted feedback. I needed advice from someone, anyone, who was dealing with the same issues I did. I wanted a sense of belonging. I felt like throwing a big ol’ sign on my back saying “HERE I AM! COME FIND ME!”
Then I was introduced to Instagram. Thank you Jesus! I found women riders just like me and finally, finally, I let that freak flag fly. And the most wonderful thing happened. I was being flooded with information that I had been starving for, I was being inspired and I was being encouraged.
But still, something was missing. I still wasn’t getting that feeling of belonging. I was still looking for my tribe. I realized I needed to start looking outside the 607 if I wanted to find them.
Now about this time an up and coming all-women’s group had been starting to make waves in the motorcycle community and it just so happened a girl from my hometown, Dana Cooley, was one of their core members. Being a fan I started following the group she was affiliated with, The Iron Lilies.
This past February they opened up their membership to women across the globe. I jumped at the chance. I mean, who the hell wouldn’t?!
So why did I choose The Iron Lilies?
1. I knew one of them personally.
2. All of the members are near to my age.
3. Being a newer group it didn’t seem so overwhelming.
4. Their CTA (Call to Action) spoke to me.
5. There was no need to start a branch or chapter in my area. (Kind of hard when you’re solo most days)
Do I regret it? Hell to the no! Already I’m connecting more with these ladies than I have with any others in the community. I finally got what I’d been looking for. If your struggle sounds anything like mine I hope you start looking for your tribe! Our little sub-culture is growing ladies!